Parenthood, the Great Moral Gamble – Issue 27: Dark Matter

I
didn’t choose to have a child. Not if “choosing” means
something rational—weighing pros and cons, coming to a conclusion.
I tried that process but ran away from it because, even though I
wanted a child, it seemed to me that creating a whole new person was
such an enormity that no one could rationally decide to do such a
thing. There is so much at stake, and so little certainty about the
outcome. A child that I conceived might be happy, but he might be
miserable beyond endurance. The child might bring happiness to
others, or he might ruin people’s lives. It seemed to me that
creating life was an act of astonishing hubris because it made me
responsible, maybe morally
responsible, for huge consequences. For most of our species’
history, we were spared that decision because procreation was not
(for the most part) a choice, but merely something that happened to
us. It was a biological destiny. We escaped that destiny when science
gave us control over our fertility. But I wasn’t equal to the
freedom that science gave me. Fearful of such an immense decision
amid such uncertainty, I
allowed myself to drift into parenthood instead of…

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